Did You Do It? The Weekly Mentor by Oliver DeMille


by Oliver DeMille

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Did you hold an interview with your kids this past Sunday? Or Saturday? Or any one day this past week?

Did you get a blank piece of paper and brainstorm what your son needs most in his life right now? What you need to do to be inspirational and supportive?

What you need to do to provide resources, opportunities, time and space for his education? Not boss him, or assign him—but genuinely help him?

After you spent ten minutes on this, did you share it with your spouse and talk together about ways you can better serve your son? And really help him in the ways he needs it most?

Did you then meet with him, and without sharing your list just ask him how you can help him? And write down his answers?

Afterwards, did you re-evaluate your lists: the one you made as you brainstormed, the additions from your spouse, and then the things your son mentioned?

A Little Time, A Big Impact

Did you pick one or two things from the list and are you making these a key focus of your week?

Did you do the same for each of your kids?

If you did these things, you’re doing something great. Specifically: You’re mentoring.

It’s incredibly powerful. It’s life changing. It’s profound.

If you’re doing it, you’re a rare parent. A rare leader. A great example.

Join the mentoring revolution. It takes about an hour a week—fifteen minutes brainstorming, fifteen minutes discussing with your spouse, fifteen minutes interviewing your kid, and fifteen minutes making sure you do what your son or daughter needs most from you this week.

Sometimes the actual actions can take a few hours, but the planning nearly always takes less than an hour.

Small and Simple Things

If you don’t have time, at least do the brainstorming. Just fifteen minutes will make a huge difference.

And it will change your son’s life drastically. Or your daughter’s. Or both. Do it every week, and you’ll be a truly amazing parent. And mentor. And leader.

You’ll be great.

And your child will become great.

Greatness is always the result of small and simple things.

Great parenting is the best thing you’ll ever do.

It’s such a small thing, requiring just a blank piece of paper and a few short minutes of your time. Yet it will change the future of your family more than anything else.

Did you already do it this week?

If not, why not do it now?

Do you want to learn more techniques and principles
on how to provide truly great education?
Read Oliver DeMille’s new book
What’s So Great About the Classics?: TJEd for Dads.

Available in e-book and audio book as part of the TJEd for Dads seminar bundle.

About the Author:

Rachel is the co-author of Leadership Education: The Phases of Learning and the audio series Core and Love of Learning: A Recipe for Success, and the author of the award-winning educational resource, This Week in History. She is an accomplished musician, writer, literary editor, public speaker, consultant and momschool organizer.


  1. Tami Clinger June 28, 2014 at 1:42 pm - Reply

    I have to say “amen” to this principle and the power that lies within it, even after your children are grown. We homeschooled our six and all too quickly they were out on their own and out of our immediate stewardship. But we initiated a tradition at our last family reunion that has powerfully changed lives. After following your pattern of pondering each families needs and discussing it together (grandma and grandpa) we met with each couple and just asked how they were doing and how we could help. From the “interview” we made a list of blessings we could all pray for that were specific to each family’s needs and shared it with the family. The last six months has produced miracles. We have seen every request mercifully met and growth in all areas prayed for. I just had to share and suggest that we keep the mentoring going even after they’re grown. : )

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